Friday, May 30, 2008

Love is a mind creation to avoid being alone


There is a thin line between what your heart desires and what your mind tells you to do. I lived 25 years of my life taught to mostly do to things:

Follow your heart

Or

Think before you do stuff

I’ve had a lot of good days in my life mainly because I do not ask for too much and I appreciate the little things that come my way. I remember times when some friends and I would just go out and have a blast, not carrying about all the worries in life or how successful we’d be in 20 years but of course there were times when dramatic stuff came our way and things just didn’t go the way they ware actually planned. My reactions to bad stuff is simply “Oh well! Life was never meant to be perfect and its not the end of the world.”

When tragedy comes your way and there is nothing much you can do but tremble. There is always something out there that can make you feel better and the way I see it, it all depends on what type of a person you are? Do you follow your heart or do you let your mind take control?

I remember going to pick my friend up from college one day. This was back in the days when I didn’t have a cell phone so it was quiet hard to get in touch with me unless you ringed up one of my friends. Anyways I am lounging there and about while he is walking towards me with a confused face. He pulls out his hand to say hello but instead he says “G, I am not sure how am I supposed to say this but I think you should contact your family because your dads wife passed away”. At that point in my life she was the closest person to me if not the only person that actually knew what I was thinking before I even said a word. Anyways my heart froze, my mind took control and the only thing on my mind was to get to my dad and sisters as soon as possible in order to support them through this tragedy. I only cried 6 days later when I was alone in the room and after I was sure that they are strong enough to carry on with their lives without messing up. I still kept an eye on them for a very long time.

I also remember other times when friends went through unwanted moments in their life, be it a relationship or a stupid mistake that was a result from someone dear to them. Being an ordinary person they’d snap, hold their feelings and say nothing, dismiss the other person, argue or if it was a fortunate day they’d forgive. What ever actions they took was resorted from the heart. Sometimes the actions they took were right and at other times they could have done better.

Some people that know me say I am heartless at times or I am very strict (bad to the bone) and should think from the heart. Being a product of my father, I was taught to always think first and then use your heart to be gentle. I also know that there is a limit to everything in life and one thing that’s not acceptable to be rude.

Sometimes I am not really sure what rule am I supposed to follow and to be quiet honest I use the mind then heart rule in a relationship, at work and in the house too. All I know is that there is a thin line between what your heart desires and what your mind tells you to do. Question is what is it that makes me a better person? Being smart or being a loving person?

When someone says I think I love you. Is that the heart or mind talking? lol

G

70 comments:

Per Your Request said...

I think I love you? sounds like somebody that cant figure out their heart.

Degoat said...

LoL.. maybe or maybe thts how its first transalated into words..

G

Ella said...

When i speak- i speak my heart, my mind rules my decisions, but my heart makes me go forward with it..

When people say they love me, its never from their heart, always from their mind. I am the antidote to what they think is right... When someone says they love you from their heart you feel the love. The want. The appereciation for simply being the person you are and more to them ...


your title to this post is very true when you think about it deeper. Its all a created within our minds to avoid the reality of being one !

Wardat_il'7leej said...

Most people are delusional when they hear the L word and interpret it to mean what their heart desires. Others on the other hand throw the word out without realising its true value and how it can alter a relationship to a different level especially when addressed to a woman.

I advise to use the L word sparingly and only say it when the feeling in your heart matches the thoughts in your mind.

Degoat said...

Ella speaking from the heart with ur mind ruling ur decisions is good, however it leads to two things:

1. saying something that will touch the other person (posativly)

2. in times of anger and un-comfortness it can make you say stuff you end up regretting.

its a 50/50 chance and habits are hard to change. so i dont wanna give No.2 a 50 per cent chance

G

Degoat said...

Warda,

Actions speak louder then words. I wish if this rule always applied in relationships

To be quiet honest I think that relationships don’t work without the magic words “I LOVE YOU”. In most cases its “I love you every time I set my eyes on you or I hear your voice” OR “you never say it which makes me believe that you don’t really love me.”

Either too romantic or it comes with a headache lol

DAMN  you somehow put a bad idea in my mind = I’ll NEVER get married

G

Wardat_il'7leej said...

The "I love you" your referring to is usally used for a one ended benefit, if you catch my drift

Degoat said...

Yaa I get u Warda :)

G

Charm said...

My humble opinion (A) :

The L word is dangerous when its not meant, people get stuck with others who don't feel likewise towards them which leads to a messy situations.


I guess what makes people better people is a mixture of both heart "love" and mind "cleverness".. a7m a7m *takes a deep breath*

3anooda said...

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Single and Fabulous said...

good blog. Good read. But i really don't know what would be the answer to your last question, is it the heart or the mind that makes someone says: I LOVE YOU.

hmmmm, that's a head scratcher !

Degoat said...

LoL S&F..

U dont wanna be saying that to anyone, Thats what i get from reading ur display name ;)

G

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G

Omani Princess (not Omani LOL) said...

Speaking from my own experience, the mind cannot really tell the heart what to feel. So one should let themselves feel because this is the most honest, but then, do not move on any of those feelings without consulting one's logical side.

If one always speaks the truth, they have nothing to fear because they have nothing to regret.


The mind alone can decieve us into thinking somthing is best because it is socially accepted as best, but it may be wrong for the person or the situation.

Degoat said...

OP, i gotta agree with you.. i guess balancing between both is the way forward..

There is an amazing book i read last year called "Emotional Intelligence". It helps you understand people in a better way, this way your reaction has a higher percentage of influencing them in the way you want to..

G

Omani Princess (not Omani LOL) said...

LOL, if we could always apply all the knowledge available to us.

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