Tuesday, December 22, 2009
Let me explain why?
Everyday you speak, work or even see someone, the more you get to know him. Even if it's professionally that might be a good thing or a bad thing depending on your jobs nature. But the more the both of you get to know one another, the more that person takes you for granted. For example; the first year of your marriage is usually rough due to the different habits and backgrounds the both of you have. However when you look at the initial five years of your marriage, they say that it’s the best days because you still don’t know what to expect from him/her and you are impressed by even the little things. However the longer you last with him/her the narrower the expectation gets and so the little stuff you do is taken for granted. The satisfactory ladder is applied here and it’s scientifically proven right (and this works vice versa).
So basically if I get you (my wife) a flower everyday you will be flattered until one day the flower I offer to you becomes basic and the smile you give me starts washing away. The warmth feel I once upon a time received is no longer mine even though I am still doing something most people don’t usually do. The only way I can gain back that smile is by climbing up the satisfactory ladder to reach for the new unexpected surprise I will give her, and all of a sudden just like a flower that was almost dying she smiles at me again with a pretty face that brightens up my day.
If I did the same thing with strangers or who I like to call customers, the result would be different. For instance; I give away a single rose to one customer everyday (just like how I did it to my wife). I touched her unexpected button and she gives me back a smile that overwhelms my week. I feel happy, acknowledged and not taken for granted even after years of doing the same exact thing. Because every customer will give me a different impression and I won’t wash away their smile because basically I am not talking about the same person getting the same treatment everyday. So nor will they feel basic or would I take the different smiles and comments for granted.
I previously wrote a post about acknowledgment and what it means to one another. People feel acknowledged in different ways but we all seek for the thing that makes us feel special. Anyways after changing profession I hit the road in search of a new way to pursuit what we are all looking for. I have engaged my-self in lots of conversations with people that were quit interesting and others that are simply airheads. I also read a great deal of books to better understand the circle of life or what happens inside it.
My uncle once told me a story about 6 blind men that were asked to approach an elephant to describe what they feel. One man touched the stomach and described the big round shape he felt. The second man landed on the trunk and described the snake looking nose it had and how it uses it to drink, breath and so on. The third guy luckily touched the tusk and described its shape and how hard it is. The fourth guy touched the elephants tail and behind and so he described what a huge ass and tiny tail does this poor animal have. The fifth mostly described the short legs and shamefully added some info of what’s between the legs. The sixth and last blind guy got the ears and it was the hardest to figure-out but he finally concluded that this large thing must be earflaps that help this slow animal cool down.
After telling me this boring story, my uncle then concluded his point by asking me to imagine that these 6 blind men were authors/writers. Only after we read and hear the different thoughts and views of people, we then put them all together to get a full picture of our individual curious interest.
Knowledge is what will help me get there and I am certain it would somehow. So I’ve made it a habit to read in order to better understand my role in life and I also write to observe how I develop from a boy to a man.
I find my-self rebellious against traditional and usual social acceptance. My dream is to become a sociologist but I never initiated that path yet and acknowledgment is still my motto in life.
"The alienated human individual is bound to society as a whole by an invisible umbilical cord: the law of value. It acts upon all facets of his life, shaping his road and his destiny." Che Guevara
Sunday, October 04, 2009
I hope you all enjoy it..
Uncle (who is me)
You rock! (who is lil sis)
Uncle: Hey sis
You rock!: hey bro
Uncle: How u doin?
You rock!: am fine u??
Uncle: I'm good
Uncle: Saw ur msg n u said u needed to talk
You rock!: ya
You rock!: now?
Uncle: Ya sure
You rock!: ok ya3ni umm
You rock!: be4 i didnt used to get scared be4 tests now i do 4 no reason
You rock!: *about
Uncle: Do u study as much as u used to?
You rock!: ya
You rock!: ba3d akthar
Uncle: Great.. Mabrook sis
You rock!: :S
Uncle: U r growing up n u r beginning to realize what responsibility is
You rock!: stomachaches and nausea and not being able to sleep?
You rock!: thats responsibility?
Uncle: Exactly.. Thts y when u do anythin wrong we get so angry
Uncle: We r responsible for u la
You rock!: i dont get it that sounds like torture i mean the stomachaches and stuff
Uncle: :) now u have to remember there are two types of ppl..
You rock!: ya?
Uncle: Ppl that think with their minds n some that think with their heart (emotional ppl)
You rock!: aha
You rock!: i dont get what that has to do with this ... :D
Uncle: We all think with both but we use mind more then heart or some use heart more then mind
Uncle: All u need to figure is how to balance n control it
You rock!: and u think i use what more?
You rock!: oooooooooooh
You rock!: ok
Uncle: Heart.. That's why u get nausea
You rock!: soo i have to figure out how to control it like sort of mind over matter??
Uncle: If u use mind more.. U will be able to control ur emotions shweia n force ur self to sleep cause ur common sense says its more important
You rock!: can i ask u a question?
Uncle: There is no school that can teach u that.. U need to figure it out
You rock!: did it happen to u b4?
Uncle: No one missed this experience.. Some ppl only got over it without realising it.. So their advice won't be like mine
You rock!: oh ok
You rock!: so its gonna take a long time maybe?
You rock!: it depends on me sa7?
Uncle: It depends on u.. I don't like things controlling me so I got rid of that phase quickly
Uncle: Yela sis gotta go now but
You rock!: mhm
Uncle: Will check on u soon..
You rock!: ok tc thnx
Uncle: Love u
You rock!: ok sure bye say hi 2 every1 there
You rock!: love u 2
You rock! signed out.
Wednesday, August 26, 2009
I don’t understand what’s going on. Where is this place?!
His shots get wide and I can’t stop it, I’m thinking what is the right next move..
What can I do? I’ve been here before yet I wonder how can I stand a chance against something like this? This is chaos.
I am unconscious and something has taken over me. I hit back with small blows as I inch-up to him avoiding his punches but I haven’t regained my consciousness yet, these heart beats are all I feel.
Dear God who or what is this thing pushing me forward? Who’s controlling me?
The level of tenacity between us is what determines success. The one who controls both his and his enemy’s chaos is the one who leaves with victory?
How did I get here? Or should I be asking, why?
Is it Money? Fame? If I find a purpose than maybe I will figure out what’s the next best step for me. *Sigh*
My body is still throwing small blows, trying to close the gap between me and him, while I am still doing all I can do, I keep breathing cause it might make me last through the day.
And that’s when it hit me
“Those who do not fear the sword they wield have no right to wield a sword at all.”
It might not make sense but “Inspiration” is the act or power that arouses our emotional behaviour, changing the course of our usual activity by replacing an emotion with another, replacing sorrow with bliss, fear with sense or regret with success.
Unfortunately I can’t remember it a lot due to my memory problem but I think my past was as any kid’s ordinary life, full of joyful moments. The few anecdotes I remember are from boat trips with dad, mom fighting/struggling to fill my life with toys to keep me away from harm, and my cousins & I up to mischief that kept the whole neighborhood in constant alert.
My teenage moments:
From my teenage days, all I remember are silly moments I put my folks through. Moments you wouldn’t want to be in. I had my folks bail me out of jail for driving without license, I also remember staring at furious dad through a piece of glass after he was summoned by the headmaster because of classes that were skipped, and I also remember dodging a lifetime jail sentence for blowing up a house with this explosive substance a friend & I have created from PifPaf and some other stuff.
My life now:
I think the change in me is a miracle, from being the stupidest kid in planet earth to someone that thinks about the boring things in life AKA a good future. Now my ideal way of having fun varies from having a decent conversation over a cup of coffee to playing with gadgets or camping in the middle of nowhere. I seriously can’t think of a more boring way to live life but I guess that’s what age does to us.
I personally believe that we (Human Beings) go through constant changes throughout our lifetime and these experiences help us make decisions. But when I’m unconscious, lost, and can’t find a way I remember a quote from Marianne Williamson that says:
“Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure. We ask ourselves, Who am I to be brilliant, gorgeous, talented, fabulous? Actually, who are you not to be? We were born to make manifest the glory of God that is within us. And as we let our own light shine, we unconsciously give other people permission to do the same.”
Sunday, April 26, 2009
At the moment I am not sure if it will be of any help to anyone but this has been one of my interests for the past few years and I don't see a better way then blogging it.
I will be updating it whenever I get the chance. I am hoping that means approximately every two weeks depending on how much I've had to read.
Your comments means alot.
Welcome to my new blog
Monday, January 12, 2009
Desires, needs call it whatever you wanna call it but we humans have it in us that we always wanna be perfect.
Imagine that your emotions is a flying plane that gets hit by turbulence causing a sudden drop. A good pilot is trained to set the flying craft back on track before getting caught up in a “no escape situation”. A normal human is not trained to handle this unexpected drop of the flying object causing him to get into a state of panic.
Depression in my eyes is not a plane; however I like to think of it as a sudden drop to a human’s self-esteem. Some ppl fall into depression gradually and others fall into in a blink of an eye depending on the reason and circumstance.
We (the human race) are known as habitual creatures that think and react unconsciously making it a habit within our selves to pursue happiness for as long as we can breath. Sometimes we don’t ask for much nevertheless we call having – a one floor house, with a 4X4, a saloon car parked on the garage and a happy family – a perfect life.
Yet it’s not out of the ordinary to hear that we are selfish creatures that are never satisfied. Asking for more is one side of our habitual characteristics but my main argument today is the word “perfection”. We admire a perfect person or someone that is in pursuit of happiness, someone who has almost grasped what is so called perfection.
Which brings me to a quote I heard from a cartoon I follow:
There is no such thing as perfect in this world.
This may sound cliché, but it’s the truth.
The average person admires perfection and seeks to obtain it.
But, what’s the point of achieving perfection?
There is none, nothing, not a single thing.
I loathe perfection!
If something is perfect then there is nothing left.
There is no room for imagination.
No room for anyone to gain additional knowledge or abilities.
For scientists perfection will only bring despair.
It is their job to create things more wonderful than anything before it, but never to obtain perfection.
A scientist must be a person who finds ecstasy while suffering from that antinomy.
Accepting the fact that there is nothing called perfect in this world means that you’ve accepted the fact that things sometimes do not go in the way you were hoping it would be. Which I believe helps you somehow regain control of the un-excepted drop to your plane of emotions. Because you do not believe in perfection this will keep you alerted of any drop to your self-esteem making it a gradual slump.
Recognizing that things are not well is the first step of change and helps you speed up the process of recovery. Now all you have to do is make it a habit that you find your fix from that antinomy you are facing.
Those desires and needs you have are achievable, they just won’t be something that doesn’t exist, they won’t be perfect.